GREAT INFLUENCES

  
    When I started this class I thought we were only going to talk about communication not ourselves or that we would go this deep into the topic of communication . Anyway since we are talking about the influences of perception I want to talk about one that has ruled a lot of things I do or how I react to certain things and that influence is stereotype .What I focus on mainly is how people look not necessarily their race but how they actually dress or look or behave .I believe in the saying that first appearance is what matters most (I am pretty sure that's not how the saying goes but that what I remember for now) cause to me if I meet someone the first time and the person looks haggard or person acts like a vulgar or prideful person I immediately assume such person is from the back street or  that is the way the person behaves everyday . And if I meet someone who is shy or looks calm I immediately assume such person is stupid and a push over. And I am always right but,  one day I met someone who finally proved me wrong and it was from the most unexpected person.

   Surprising I met this friend of  mine through another friend who lived with my mum and I at that time anyway one day she came to my house her name is Bunmi (don't bother pronouncing it I don't think u can) (probably another assumption on my part as I am sure that some of you might be able to pronounce it) anyway bunmi came to my house and  after spending some time I deduced that she was this quiet calm and patient and shy person (in order words she is stupid and a pushover according to me)and so I decide that we didn't have anything in common so we couldn't be friends and I think she noticed that I had begun to look down slightly on her (I don't like people who are pushovers or stupid though sometimes I am one)but she let it be. anyway she left and I didn't see her again for another two weeks or so and then my friend that was living with my mum and I decided to go and see her and since I was bored I decided to go too .We got to her house and I was very surprised( a pleasant one)


      Bunmi was a totally different person I mean she was still the same calm, patient person but she wasn't the shy, stupid person that I though she was nor was she a push over . I realized that she was a very brilliant and bright I mean she could hold up an intelligent conversation, she commanded attention and she was even the one ordering people around that day I was so surprised I was quiet through out my stay there that day was just one of those days when things just change your perspective for the better and I  have to say that that taught me . I still do it now but not as much as I did it before (which I am sure my mother is very grateful for since I practically judged all of her friends).